The Ultimate Ego Trip

Let go of fear and feelings of inferiority, and we will get somewhere, really. Sure, we read this beginning sentence after I write it, but we are not reading into it. Most of us will sneak and "tip-toe" through the tulips on that concept. That means that we will be afraid to practice that idea to some extent however deeply and meaningfully we read that concept, sometimes especially when we read it deep enough to practice it. When I wrote that first sentence, even I was like for a millisecond, honestly: "Wow, where did that come from?" Everyone and everything at some level loves its comfort zone, and when we go above or below that comfort zone, fear and inferiority will rear its ugly head (or tail). Some people rise above it, some people do not rise above it, but when things happen, it is there.

The best we can do with all those feelings is to let them go, destroy them or whatever we can do to get right with ourselves, because our comfort zone is just an illusion. The reality is that everything is possible in existence, and in objective reality there are no comfort zones, just reality. Wayne W. Dyer called them all Erroneous Zones, and I see why now. The error is thinking that reality comes down to what we think it is, purely. Reality is everything in existence including God and Nature, purely, not what we want to think it is. Also, genuinely trying to please anyone other than yourself is a closed book and dead weight reality that does not have value. Why? When you realize that life is within you, and nowhere else, you are working with something living, and not toward a reality that does not have value.

I was watching the last "Happy Days" episode made in 1984, depicting the year 1972, when the character Richie Cunningham punched "the Fonz"/Arthur Fonzarelli character, and before Richie punched "the Fonz"/Arthur Fonzarelli, Richie talked to him about how he pleased everyone else but himself, and was a perfect soldier, and had everyone else depending on him and drank beer to drown his sorrows, but when Richie Cunningham realized the reality of the situation, he snapped back to all right with a better understanding of how reality works. Sure, you can serve others, but you cannot have illusions about it.

Realistically, you must always face yourself, not others. Avoiding yourself fearfully is the key to failure. Success is courage. Create your character without fear of reality and you will genuinely get somewhere. After all, playing God is the ultimate comfort zone, and just that, playing God. Being a complete and real person is just that, being a complete and real person. Those two sentences are the key to avoiding cults, guilt traps and genuine weakness. Develop strength from within genuinely in a genuinely "boot strap" or initializing way that does it step by step and you will get somewhere genuinely.

So, I end with a personal example: I face blocks and frustration like everyone else and pay the same prices, and do work like everyone else. My big flaw when I get angry with myself is that I even have momentary envy of a celebrity like O.J. Simpson (before the murders when he had people respecting him and worshipping him like he could "not do wrong" by reality). I mean, I feel like just the opposite of what he seemed to be: I am "weird", taciturn, "nerdy", "strange", and overly rational and "realistic" about life at times. I even shun being "a public hero" or whatever. Also, I live like a monk when it comes to women, I am not homosexual or anything, I just want meaningful and friendly relationships when I do relate to women. In short, O.J. Simpson "looks like a winner", and when I get angry with myself for my realistic and "slow-cooked" viewpoint, frustration should set in, but I do not let it. I know what is up fully, and I make myself all right with it. Is that not all our cases?

My name is Joshua Clayton, I am a freelance writer based in Inglewood, California. I also write under a few pen-names and aliases, but Joshua Clayton is my real name, and I write by that for the most part now. I am a philosophical writer and objective thinker and honest action taker. I also work at a senior center in Gardena, California as my day job, among other things, but primarily I am a writer.

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Jim Rohn - Habits To Build A Better You (Personal Development)

Progress Depends on Doing the Little Things Daily

As we work towards our Goals, it's easy to get discouraged, because we don't always see progress. We want a quick result or at least something we can see every time we look, but that's not how we should measure progress all the time. Sometimes, our progress has to be measured in the daily actions we take.

When we look at one of the most common Goals, weight loss, it's easy to see why it's also one of the most common abandoned Goals. Losing weight is a long process if we do it right without endangering our health. Even weight loss surgeries won't guarantee immediate, observable results each day. Yet we weigh ourselves daily, looking for more progress; and we get disappointed when it stays the same or fluctuates up and down. What's important is the trend, not the day to day changes.

That needs to be repeated.

What's important is the TREND, not the day to day changes.

If we want to make sure the trend is going in the right direction we have to do the right things each day to make that happen. We won't be perfect at them, certainly not at first; but that doesn't mean we don't keep at it. Keeping with our weight loss example, what are the daily things that we can track that will give us progress towards our target weight?

First we need to break down what it takes to lose weight. Broadly speaking this means we burn more calories than we consume. We exercise more and we eat less. More than what and less than what?

Second what are the things we can do to make those happen? For exercise, it should be simple. If you don't have a gym membership or any equipment at home, then the easiest thing to do is walk. Walk 30 minutes a day. Or if 30 is too much at first, walk 10 or 5 minutes. Then do it again the next day and the next. Almost everyone can do this.

What about eating less? This one is harder, because we have to eat to live. Food is a necessity, but it should't be an addiction. Decide what meals you'll eat each day. In this example let's decide on a moderate breakfast to start off the day refueled and ready. Then a light lunch and a moderate dinner. We should define what moderate and light mean. This includes portion sizes and calories. We should also make a list of foods we should eat and foods we should avoid.

What else can we do? There are certain habits we should develop to go with exercising more and eating less. Getting up early, at the same time each day of the week, is essential. You can't have breakfast if you don't give yourself time to make and eat it before work. You can't exercise in the morning if that's your preferred time. You can't take time to review your day's tasks and appointments. All of these things are essential to a successful day, and you can't do them if you get up 20 minutes before you have to leave the house.

Third, and possibly the most important factor in your progress, is to create a tracker of some kind. Even a sheet of paper with handwritten lists of the things you want to do and seven boxes for the days of the week will do. Get up at 6am. Exercise. Shower and dress. Make/eat a good breakfast. Review goals and your schedule. Types of foods and quantities eaten. Amount of water drank.

Figure out the most important things to track. Pick three actions and track those for two weeks. Add one or two actions to track every two or three weeks until you're doing and tracking all the things necessary to lose weight. This will let you see progress each day as you check off each item or record the amounts. It builds a sense of Success, and you build momentum. On a weekly basis you can check in on the Goal that's driving this. Weigh in on the same day at the same time each week and record that. Don't worry about the number for a bit. Your daily actions will take care of that for you.

Setting good goals is essential to your success. Everyone thinks they know how to set goals, but sometimes we don't know or remember some things. Visit http://5things.Success-Maniacs.com/ for a free report called 5 Things About Goal Setting You Need to Know Right Now.

Tim Johnson is a life-long student of self-development and leadership material. He's on a mission to teach as many people as he can to be successful in a moral and ethical way, consistent with their values, that can create positive change in themselves and everyone they meet.

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Secrets Of Self Made Millionaires by Brian Tracy

The Importance of Having a Good Perspective on Life

How many times have we had an opinion on something, been convinced that we were right, only to have someone else turn up with previously unconsidered information or introduce a different viewpoint, thus prompting a whole new way of thinking? Being ready to listen to another perspective is important. It keeps our minds flexible and adaptable and is an important part of staying youthful and tolerant of what else is happening in the world.

When we share how we feel about something and discuss our approach we're expanding all our minds. We're giving an indication of how our thinking works, our perspective on life. Some people's automatic default is negative. They're convinced that things are bound to go wrong, seem to always anticipate the worst. Others think differently and are more positive and optimistic. Our outlook pre-determines how much we let external factors influence us. That's why having a good perspective is so important.

- If we regard something as scary then we're bound to behave in a more measured, cautious, apprehensive way. Feeling nervous or afraid can deter us from trying too hard. We protect ourselves by not stepping too far from our safe place. Yet we could instead treat setbacks as minor hurdles or learning points, which will often result in us hardly noticing them. We won't think twice as our concentration flows into looking for options or solutions in order to keep going.

When we feel confident and hopeful about a situation we're more relaxed and focussed on a positive outcome. There's a saying that if you expect something to be good or bad, hard or easy, guess what - you're right! We set in place a framework based on how we see things working out.

- Our mindset automatically seeps into our approach to life and influences how we handle relationships, what we expect from people, what we anticipate happening. That mindset then impacts on how others treat us. Eleanor Roosevelt reportedly said, 'we teach people how to treat us'. Our expectations can alter the dynamics of a relationship. A winning philosophy generates the best chance of a good experience.

- If we're feeling happy or sad, that too can colour our interpretation of a situation. For example, seeing several people we know chatting and laughing can be viewed in two completely different ways, dependent on how we're feeling at the time. On a bad day we may be sensitive and feel uneasy, convinced that they're talking and laughing about us. We may already be feeling embarrassed, unhappy and witnessing their laughter reinforces our already fragile mindset.

On a good day we may not even notice those people, or we may simply think that they're having a pleasant time. Our perspective is influenced by our personal circumstances and inner dialogue. It affects how we interpret their behaviour. The right perspective makes all the difference and is a huge factor in how we then choose to respond.

- Taking time to ask questions, being genuinely interested in the answers and caring enough to try to understand what's being said is also relevant in supporting us having a good perspective. Knowledge, interest, information and genuine discussion gives us a forum in which to explore other viewpoints and opinions. Mental growth occurs grow when we're happy to respectfully question and understand other peoples' attitudes, ideas and views. Patience and tolerance are part of this approach.

- Our background, parents and schooling, how we've been raised, all have a massive bearing on our perspective on life. We may have clear views, for example, on the role of men and women, what constitutes a good marriage, the importance of looks and material possessions. We may feel incredulous that other people have different viewpoints, that the things that matter to us are of little significance to them. Understanding or at least being able to respect and defend their right to their opinions is an important part of forming successful adult relationships.

- Communication should be a two-way activity and sharing our opinions helps us negotiate ways to comfortably live together, helps others understand where we're coming from, why we feel the way we do and then perhaps be able to refine our perspectives. Just as we may feel strongly about how other people should behave, so others may also hold their own definite views, views that are diametrically opposed to ours.

And they will, no doubt, have valid, justifiable reasons for having those views. Sharing and learning about their reasoning may enable us to moderate or modify our perspective and help us become more tolerant and flexible. Listening provides an opportunity for reflection and then to evolve with each other.

Having the right perspective on life helps us improve our outlook, have a more vibrant, upbeat approach to life and oil the wheels of our interactions with others. Everyone benefits when we have a good, open-minded perspective on life.

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Zig Ziglar's Top 10 Rules For Success

Unlock Your Life's Purpose With These Motivation Tips

Does it seem like it takes a lot of motivation to just take that first step of starting a new project, article or business venture? Are you unsure or confused as to what God's will or purpose is in your life?

There is so much more to life than living out each day and not having a purpose for that day. How many miraculous blessings have I missed throughout my life just squandering the days away and expecting to be blessed when I don't focus on God's will or purpose?

I love to write but sometimes my lack of motivation keeps me from my writing. When I am motivated, it gives me the will to create, be productive and achieve a sense of satisfaction. I actually get things accomplished, which in turn takes my inaction to action and I feel growth, and a feeling of significance and more power because of mastering my purpose in this life.

By excelling my motivation, I then have the opportunity to touch other people's lives by my writing and so it becomes the main focus of my life that I enjoy. When I learn to overcome being stuck and become motivated, I am living out my dream of spreading the word of God and His powerful influence in my life.

I have found that the results for living out God's plan for my life now opens the door for more blessings... how great is that?

You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what he has promised. Hebrews 10:36

The best way to stay motivated for whatever your life's purpose, is to not worry specifically what that is. The best thing to do is take action! Create a schedule that is realistic and stick to it. Do God's will and it will happen naturally and in His timing as shown:

" For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."
Jeremiah 29:11.

Your schedule will be something similar to this depending on your God-given talent or area of interest:

Every day is a great opportunity to:

Start off the day with prayer. Read the Bible and or listen to a recorded Christian radio show. My favorite is Intouch.org with Charles Stanley. The online radio broadcast lasts about twenty minutes. After dinner, read the Bible and do Bible study. If there is a church service today, it's good to attend and co-mingle with other people of faith and learn more about His word. Volunteer for help needed when you feel the Holy Spirit prompting you.

Day One:
Reach out to friends and relatives that are not saved and have a friendly conversation. Tell them about what great things God has done for you and is presently doing in your life, and lead them to Christ.

Day Two:
Write an article or work on your particular project and donate something or time to charity.

Day Three:
Do marketing for articles and or products and submit articles to other Christian blogs and social media. Also posting comments on blogs or forums with the related website link will allow for more exposure.

Rinse and Repeat! Now there may be some days where you need to work overtime or a big event comes up and some things need to be moved around. Being there for your family also is a huge priority. Raise your children with more attention and Godly discipline and you will have fewer worries when they are grown!

Another way to achieve even more motivation is to be aware that the days are short and you never know when you may run out of time to fulfill God's will.

Yet you do not know what your life will be like tomorrow. You are just a vapor that appears for a little while and then vanishes away. James 4:14

Do as much as you can weekly and record your daily accomplishments. Add extra or different Godly activities that fit your life. Review them weekly and see if you are staying motivated for God's Kingdom and watch how you soon will discover your life's purpose!

~Verona

Verona loves to encourage others with her Biblical writing about motivation and finding our purpose in life. See more of her writing at http://www.praiseblogs.com

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